In the name of God the Compassionate the Merciful
The love of self. What is it and what that means? What does it take for a person to dislike themselves? Childhood traumas? Abuse? Lack of Self confidence as a result. There are many triggers that lead to a person feeling like they are not able to love themselves. Hence, that’s not the focus of this post. The focus is to explore how and in what ways we can begin to learn to love ourselves. Asking the right questions as in, what is within us that’s blocking us and is stopping us from loving ourselves to the fullest? What assumptions and self limiting thoughts? What are the cycles that we go through that we need to break through to be able to come out stronger? What are our fears? And how do we do that if it’s anything simpler than having an intention to change and pick up our broken pieces and putting it back together? That’s what healing is, being able to learn to let go of what we can’t control and focusing on what we can, so we can learn self-management and balance. Knowing that no one is ever going to knock at our door to pick us up and put us back together except ourselves and in that intention that’s within us strength manifests and reaches a new limit that’s necessary not just for self but as a collective. Ever seen a domino effect how dominoes fall on top of each other that’s the same thing with energies frequencies and vibrations every single person choice impacts how the collective frequency changes that’s why addicts, severe mental patients, killers have to be separated out from the rest to make sure the effect of the collective is physically remote from everyone else. Yes we all do have free will, and we do have control yes but are we using the power of control that we have in managing ourselves or are we allowing the negative forces of the outside to pull us in any direction they desire? Are we fighting our inner desires or external temptations to do wrong? The path to self-love has strength and peace that comes from a place that’s required to be able to maintain self. Social constructs, specially in the west that are not faith based and rather money focused, completely eliminate the need to come back to our true self on a daily basis. Despite the fact that meditation, yoga and other self help practices have been more widely adopted in the past decade, still execution at the micro level is missing as it’s the responsibility of the individual to be conscious of their choices, and we tend to forget that in our “busy” lives. What I’ve found to work for me when it comes to loving myself is simply shifting focus when I’m being drained, or I feel I’m hurting myself for pleasing others, doing something or making a decision. Asking myself, do I love myself enough in this situation? Am I pushing myself too far in this situation, and how do I stop it? Then take action. The key I have found has been able to work well so far and I’m sure there is more to come, learn and grow to find new ways of self love.